Say No — Script Builder
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Use this page to build your own "no" script. Fill in each section, then combine them at the end. Saying no is a skill — writing it down first makes it easier to say out loud.
1. The Situation
What are you being asked to do?
2. Who's Asking
Who is making the request?
Your relationship: ☐ Manager ☐ Colleague ☐ Friend ☐ Family member ☐ Acquaintance ☐ Other: ________
3. Pick Your Opening
Choose one that fits your style (circle or check):
☐ "I appreciate you asking, but..."
☐ "I've thought about it, and..."
☐ "I'm not able to do that."
☐ "Thanks for thinking of me, but..."
☐ "I wish I could, but..."
4. Your Reason (Keep It Short)
One or two sentences maximum. You don't owe a long explanation.
5. Your Alternative or Offer (Optional)
If you want to soften the no or suggest something else:
6. Put It Together
Combine your opening + reason + alternative into one response:
Example Scripts
Situation: Coworker asks you to cover their Saturday shift.
"I appreciate you asking, but I'm not available this Saturday. You might check with the rest of the team though."
Situation: A friend invites you to an event you don't want to attend.
"Thanks for thinking of me, but I'm going to sit this one out. I hope you have a great time."
Situation: Your manager asks you to take on another project when you're already overloaded.
"I've thought about it, and I don't think I can take that on right now without something else slipping. Can we look at priorities together?"