Following Up
Scripts for following up after being ignored, after hard conversations, after setting a boundary, and for general check-ins.
After Being Ignored
“I wanted to circle back on what I sent last week. Is now a good time to discuss it?”
Professional follow-up at work
“I know things get busy, but I'd appreciate a response when you get a chance.”
“I'm following up because this is still important to me. Can we set a time to talk about it?”
“I'd rather hear a no than hear nothing. Can you let me know where this stands?”
When the silence is the hard part
After a Difficult Conversation
“I've been thinking about our conversation, and I want you to know I meant what I said — and I still care about us.”
After a relationship talk
“I know that was a tough one. I just wanted to check in and see how you're feeling.”
“I'm glad we talked, even though it was hard. I don't want it to sit between us.”
Keeping the door open
“I wanted to follow up and make sure we're on the same page after yesterday.”
After Setting a Boundary
“I want to check in about the boundary I set. It's still important to me, and I hope it's working for you too.”
“I noticed things have been better since we talked. I appreciate you respecting what I asked for.”
Positive reinforcement
“I want to revisit something I mentioned before. I still need that boundary, and I want to make sure it's clear.”
“I set that limit because I want us to have a good relationship, not a strained one.”
Checking In
“Hey, just wanted to see how you're doing. No agenda — just checking in.”
“It's been a while since we talked about this. How are you feeling about where things are?”
Reopening a past conversation
“I wanted to touch base. Is there anything you need from me right now?”
“I've been thinking about you. How are things going?”
Casual but intentional